It’s frustrating. You just want to scream sometimes! How can this senior care that you offer to your mother be so hard? How could it be that no matter what you do, it doesn’t seem that it’s good enough for her? Why does she always have to make things so tough, especially when you’re just trying to help?
When you’re providing senior care services to a loved one, there is a challenge that is unlike anything else that you will ever face in your life. You might not think about it in the beginning, when you first realize that your loved one is going to need help, or when you volunteer to be there for them, but before long, you might be met with a number of challenges and frustrations. The most common reason for these challenges is that the dynamic of the relationship –you two being related- makes it difficult to accept new roles for one another.
When that happens, you’re going to find that you have to control your temper, bite your tongue, and just make sure that your loved one gets the proper level of care. That can lead to a great burden upon your shoulders that you can’t handle.
How do we unload this emotional burden that is cast upon us through senior care?
The best way is to find a person to talk to. It could be your spouse, your best friend, or even a counselor. You want to find someone who will be objective and not tell you what you should do or what you might want to think about. You want to find someone who will be able to listen and let you work through your problems on your own.
It’s one of the reasons why psychologists and counselors ask so many questions during therapy sessions. They aren’t trying to tell us what we should think or what we should do, but rather to help us work through the problems that cause us grief.
If you’ve ever been really angry or frustrated about something in the past, did you ever have a tantrum? Did you ever get in your car, turn the music up loud, or beat the steering wheel? That’s a release.
Sometimes, when you’re providing senior care, you need to release emotional tension. You can do that in unhealthy ways (drinking, yelling at the patient, etc.) or healthy ways, as mentioned earlier. Choose the healthy ways and both you and the elderly patient will benefit in the long run.