Living hundreds, or even thousands, of miles away from a loved one can certainly be difficult. If it’s a parent who is now requiring senior care of some form or another, you want to be certain that he or she is getting to right level of care. You also want to be certain that there is no abuse occurring in the home.
Living so far away, though, you are limited in your ability to keep up to date with your elderly loved one’s care and needs. You may only talk on the phone once in a while, and this can lead to a helpless feeling, especially if you’re not sure whether your loved one is getting the proper care, or if they are being abused.
So how can you determine whether your elderly mother or father is being abused through senior care services when you lived thousands of miles away?
One of the first things that you should do is to ensure that the person hired to care for your loved one is reliable, has a solid and verifiable track record of experience, and references. If that person doesn’t have those things, then you should encourage your loved one to make sure that they are honest and reliable.
The best option when hiring senior care services for a loved one is to hire through a reputable home care agency. There are generally several agencies within any given area. Some are more reliable and trustworthy than others. You can find a wealth of information about them online, but you should certainly find out their hiring practices, whether they conduct background checks on their potential hires, and if they offer training on a regular basis.
In the meantime, how would you know if your elderly loved one is fine and is not being abused?
Listen to the clues on the phone. Does she sound happy? Does she talk about the senior care provider as though she’s a friend? Is your father continuing to take part in the activities that he’s always enjoyed? Does he mention the caregiver and that things are going well?
When your loved one talks about the caregiver in positive terms, and they are continuing to reach out to you and be connected, then they are not likely being abused in any way. Abuse of elders is a serious crime in most states and it’s rare. Still, when you live so far away from your loved one, you just want to be certain that the senior care they are receiving is the best that it can be.